Dating guy lol muse posted
If you were single you might be willing to get out there and date more, because you would know you could tolerate the pain of rejection and the pain of not meeting the right person. “THANK GOD” I’d say to myself, “I’m on the other side of all that s**t. (Go through this cycle enough times and you’ll ruin your own self-esteem far quicker than any ex could…) This was the wrong approach. What I should have done is exactly what this article says. Don’t block it, or be totally desperate for it to go away. Because the only way it can really harm you is if you don’t adapt and say yes to it. I tried this meditation, and by the end of it I was laughing…
Or perhaps you would choose to be single and happy, knowing that you could tolerate the pain of loneliness. Being afraid that nothing will ever change, I breathe in. Feeling fear that I will not have what I want, I breathe in. I no longer believe in some magical moment when “BING! Accept that it’s around, accept that it’s going to be accompanying you from now on, but that that’s ok. That’s what I’ve been trying for the past month or so, and I’m finally planning that big trip I’ve been saving up for – even if I do feel completely petrified about doing it on my own. I’m not sure if that was supposed to happen, but it felt good anyway.
Or perhaps use this meditation as a template and create a few lines that fit your circumstances best. (I have loosely based this meditation on meditations from the Blooming of a Lotus by Thich Nhat Hanh.) Instructions: Read this to yourself slowly and breathe. Suffering from the pain in my heart, I breathe out. Feeling as if my heart will break in two, I breathe out. Feeling frustration and anger boiling inside, I breathe out. This past month, after a week of us breaking up he was already dating another girl, he told me on our would be annerversary (14 months) about this girl, and that she gave him butterflies and he really liked her.
Feeling the pain is too great to live with, I breathe in. The next couple of weeks, he has been treating me quite badly, he will message me and it will always end up in a fight and the blame comes straight back on me.
You know this already, because when you feel heartache or anxiety or frustration, it hurts.
In my practice I have noticed people often have a very low tolerance for the pain of heartache – they want to make it go away as fast as possible. When you have a headache, you want to take an aspirin; and if your body hurts, you want to rest, sleep or go to the doctor to find out what’s wrong.
If you were in a relationship that wasn’t going fast enough you would either be more patient because you knew you could tolerate the pain of waiting, or you would get out because you knew that you could tolerate the pain of letting go and being alone. Today I sent a brief, friendly text message to my ex for no other reason than something fun reminded me of him and I felt like saying hi. xx So i recently broke up with my partner about a month ago.
I still havent come to terms with everything because he was someone that i trusted so much and i never expected for him to do anything like this too me.If the meditation below does not fit you, or does not help you feel better enough, I invite you set up a personal Problem Solver coaching session with me, where I will give you a set of tools to use specific to you and your pain. I think to hear those words from someone that just the day before had told me that he didn’t want anyone else to call his own, it literally shot a hole in my chest.Meditation instructions: You can use the meditation once a day, many times a day, or pick a favorite line and use it as constant mantra to help you cope with pain. To cut a long story short, we have kept in contact, something i need help changing.The best way to deal with emotional pain is to feel it, without making it better, because great gifts are on the other side of feeling that pain.In order to understand exactly what I mean, let’s first look at how we behave when we are in pain.