Rules of dating for boys
So it is acceptable for you to initiate with a shy guy. The problem with male shyness is that it wears off in specific situations.
A shy man may never become courageous enough to approach women in general, but he can eventually grow comfortable with a girlfriend or wife.
In other words, ask yourself "Am I attracted in spite of or because of his shyness? A very close friend of mine is extremely shy, and I know plenty of other guys that are shy. Shy guys, almost by definition, do not have the balls to initiate and pursue women.
" If you answer these questions sincerely and still want to date him, you then face the problem of making it happen - or rather, making him make it happen. They fall outside of the predator-prey model for sexual interactions that is assumed in the "don't initiate contact" rule.
If they have even the slightest doubt about your intentions they will hold back.
This will offend him if you flaunt it, or if it is evident due simply to the social magnitude of the task you've assumed (for example, if you take his hand and lead him through a crowd).
That offense will reflect negatively on you and the relationship.
‘You’ll have to ask them what their rules are,’ Jeff wrote. I have no doubt the world is going to be a better place because you are in it.
This week he posted a set of rules for dating his daughters. Instead, Jeff used the post to explain that his daughters really don’t need him to control their dating life.